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How People Grow - Part 11
Sin and the Growth Process
Back in the 1980s, I remember listening to a minister give his opinion on the
recovery movement, which was becoming popular in the church. He was angry. People
were getting off to lightly he thought and he was not going to stand for it.
I can almost still hear his words today:
"What's all this stuff about people being 'powerless' over their
addiction? Don't you know? This is not what the Bible says! People are free
moral agents and responsible for their sin! Don't give me all this stuff about
being powerless. People choose to sin, and they are responsible for their
choices! It's just sin, sin, sin, period."
The minister was obviously upset at hearing people in recovery talk about Step
1 the 12 Step Process: "We admit that we are powerless over alcohol-that
our lives have become unmanageable." To him, powerlessness was a cop-out.
He thought this was letting people off the hook; they needed to admit they were
choosing wrong and begin to choose right. They were sinning. They are not supposed
to sin. So to him, the answer was clear: Stop it!
I remember thinking about all the addicts I knew who were listening, and I
felt sorry for them. His was a message I was sure they had heard before, and
it had not helped them very much.
At the same time I thought about both the truth and the error in what the preacher
was saying. He was not wrong about addicts' choices being sin; nearly everyone
agrees on that. But his statement that "people are free moral agents and
responsible for their sin," is a loaded one. In this single statement lies
much of the problem in how people both look at sin and try to help those struggling
with it. The preacher was only half right. People are responsible for
sin. People are moral agents.
But this is only part of the truth. The Bible does teach we are responsible
and accountable for our sin. It is our problem and no one else's. Butand
this would have been a surprise to the preacherthe Bible's message is
much more devastating and convicting. For the Bible says not only that
we are responsible for our sin, but also that we are powerless to keep from
sinning. Think about that for a moment: we cannot change, and we are held responsible
for not being able to change. This can only lead to one conclusion: Does
anyone need a Savior?
I understand what the preacher was thinking, for it would seem that seeing
ourselves as powerless and unable to change our lives would get us off the hook,
a little like having a genetic illness, (like hemophilia) verses one caused
by an unhealthy lifestyle (like cirrhosis of the liver). We usually have more
empathy for someone with a genetic problem than we do for someone who has made
destructive choices and has contributed to his own illness.
But when we add in the other halfthat we are responsible for that which
we can't changewe find ourselves in a much worse shape than the jail cell
to which the preacher wanted to send people. In his thinking, people should
go to "jail" for making bad choices, but they could avoid jail by
choosing differently. And they could get out of jail by repenting and becoming
better people. His "tough stance on sin" had a strange kind of hope
in it. If we are agents who can choose, then let's just choose differently!
Why allow any pattern in our lives to ever rule us again. Let's just do better.
You can almost hear the motivational speech gather steam in the pews. "Stop
being stupid! Don't let sin ruin your life anymore. Choose life! Make right
choices and be successful."
In the "powerless and responsible" view, you go to jail and
have no hope of getting out because you are unable to do better. This is both
what the Bible teaches and what any addict will tell you. No matter how many
times someone with a compulsive behavior or an internal character problem tries
to "just make better choices," it doesn't work. Don't be deluded into
thinking that willpower will suffice.
The Bible tells us that we cannot avoid the problems we find ourselves in,
we cannot change ourselves once we are in them, and we are held totally responsible
and accountable for them. In short, we are in prison, or as the Bible says,
we are "slaves to sin."
That is a much more brutal message than the tough preacher was delivering.
But gracefully the Bible does not leave us there. For when we are thrown into
prison with no chance of parole, when we are asked, "Does anyone need a
Savior?" the Bible gives us one. It is into that prison Jesus comes and
tells us he will break us out. This is Good News indeed. When people
realize that they are both powerless and responsible, they get serious about
seeking help from outside themselves.
First, A Warning
Whenever we talk about sin being a problem in the world of personal growth,
we want to make sure you know what we are not saying. We are not saying that
a person's individual sin is the cause of all the struggles and problems he
or she might have. All too often in the church, people are blamed for pain and
struggles not of their own making.
Job was a great example of this. He had losses and pains he had absolutely
no part in creating. In fact, it was his righteousness that placed him in the
cosmic contest between God and Satan. He was not suffering because he was bad,
but it could be argued, he was suffering because he was good. Who knows the
reason for his suffering, really? It is too complex to ever fully understand.
Yet we do know that his pain came from losing his family, his work, and his
health. These losses were not his doing. He, like all of us, lived in a fallen
world where there is suffering we cannot understand.
In addition, people suffer because of the sin of others. We have all experiencedor
have had someone close to us who has experiencedlong-standing suffering
because of the abuse of another person.
So, as we look at the subject of sin, let's first understand that people suffer
and lack growth for other reasons besides their own sin. If we don't understand
this, we may fall into the trap of blaming the hurting person.
A Better Way: Repentance and Living by the Spirit
The Bible gives us a better wayJesus. While the law (and all our versions
of it) cannot help, Jesus can. He replaces living by the law with living by
the Spirit. This is the answer to all the problems sin can ever throw at us.
Thus, while the standard is good and the need to make good choices is real,
there is only one way to do that: Live according to the Spirit. This
means to live according to a relationship and a process that empowers us. So
there we are again, back to dependency on God.
To change the areas we want to change, we first have to admit to them (confession)
and admit we are unable to change them by ourselves (poverty of spirit).
Then we have to be set free by establishing a relationship with him, which takes
care of the guilt and condemnation of the law (forgiveness). Then there
must be a change of mind and a change of direction about the seriousness of
the sin (repentance).
In other words, winning the war over sin includes the entire growth process
itself as we live the life the Spirit provides. We have to be doing many things
to achieve the victory we need. Significant problems like addictions and other
patterns of behavior do not give way to simple formulas such as "That is
sin. I won't do it anymore." To achieve victory we need to change fully
in all of life as we commit to the life of the Spirit.
This truth also explains why patterns of behavior that have not given way to
those formulas give way to the process outlined above. When people:
- admit powerlessness,
- ask God and others for help,
- repent,
- continue to stay plugged into a supportive environment,
- seek healing for their hurting parts of themselves,
- receive deep forgiveness and give that to others,
long standing patterns of problematic behavior do in fact change.This is the
way the Bible has described the process we need.
The Medicine of the Gospel
We can't deal with sin and temptation without confession and repentance. They
are assumed in everything this article talks about, for it would be impossible
to overcome sin and temptation without them.
The formula for dealing with the sin we commit has been around for a
long time: confession, forgiveness, and repentance for the "bad stuff"
in our own souls. Also, with repentance comes a turning to the life of God and
a filling up the soul with the "good stuff of his life.
Likewise, the formula for dealing with the sin done to us is similar:
confession, granting forgiveness, healing the wounds through God's life, and
reconciliation, if possible.
Both kinds of sin require the grace of God, facing the truth about oneself
or others, receiving the life we need, receiving and granting forgiveness, and
reconciling as much as we can.
There are no new ways of dealing with sin, for God gave us the Way a
long time ago. We think this is very encouraging as we look at the prospects
of growth from a biblical perspective. There is no rocket science, only the
gospel. But what a gospel it is! It is the medicine for the sickness we all
possess, and that really is good news.
Next time ... The Process of Time
Taken from How People Grow, ©
Drs. Henry Cloud & John Townsend, Zondervan 2001
How
People Grow (order your copy here) describes the process of how we are "separated
from the life of God" and how we can be reconciled to the life the way
it was created to work. More excerpts from How People Grow will follow in the
weeks to come.
This article is part 11 in a series of Feature Articles adapted from How
People Grow. |